Here's the last entry in the 9 things that sailors do better (go back and read 1 and 2 and 3 and 4 and 5, 6 and 7 if you missed them). Here's the original great article in Getaway on January 28 by Tyson Jopson.
8. LETTING THINGS GO
When something falls in the ocean it’s gone forever (unless you’re James Cameron). The only thing to do is forget about it and move on while muttering something profound like ‘It belongs to the ocean now, man.’ At sea if you don’t learn to let things go, you drown. Sailors would make great psychologists.
During a passage, I always find myself shaking my head at the things people get so worked up about. There's no point to gossip, there's no time for superfluousness, and in the end, it doesn't matter anyway. Being on a boat clears the mind of everything. You get centered, or nautically , even-keeled (see #3).
A version of landlubber advice, I'm reminded of a Chris Rock skit where he says, "If you go to a movie theater and someone steps on your foot, let it slide. Why spend the next 20 years in jail because someone smudged your Puma?"
Of course no sail outing goes by before someone aboard says, "You know what's bothering me?" (obligatory "what?") "Nothing."
Jokes. Sailors don’t know what that is. On a boat the captain is always right. Even when he’s not.
Yup, you might be asked your thoughts on something, but don't for a second think that means the captain is actually going to listen to you. At sea, the command hierarchy keeps things in order and everyone alive. Getting ready for a passage back to Annapolis from Newport, I listen to the owner/captain instruct me about the navigation out of the harbor.